Please be aware that this article covers just the basics of group attraction. More advanced information will be provided on this site in the future.
Group attraction focuses on attracting and interacting with an entire group as opposed to picking and signaling out a single target. Traditional pickup theory usually focuses on one target at a time. A wingman or wing woman (partner) is commonly used to help the pickup artist isolate their target so they can begin to build attraction and form a deeper bond/connection. The job of the wingman or wing woman is to help the pickup artist by taking other people who are in the group that the target is in away from the target. Thus pickup artist and target are alone.
Group attraction is different. Group attraction basically states that you don’t want or need to get a “target” away from the group. In group attraction, you’re focusing on the entire group and on hopefully being seen as the leader or important person within the group. This means you must be accepted into the group and it also means that you should focus on everyone within the group as opposed to a single person. Done correctly, attraction is built not just with one female in the group, but with all females in the group. Likewise, the men in the group enjoy you and have a good time with you and, hopefully, will even look up to you or make it apparent that you are just as valuable, if not more so, then they are to the group. This, in turn, builds your value and makes you more desirable by all women, thus giving you the choice of which lady in the group you eventually end up with.
There are some basic rules that go with group attraction.
Rule One: When you give value it must add to your own reality.
Whatever you say or do, it must also in some way be sincere. If you try to fake it or pretend you're someone you’re not women, and almost everyone else in the group, will notice and your group attraction will be destroyed before it has even started building.
Rule Two: It’s impossible to give another person, let alone a group, value unless you already have value.
So in group attraction, how does one get value to give value?
First, in group attraction you already can have some (no matter how minor it may be) value when you enter the group simply because people don’t know you. As such your body language will dictate if you have some value or not. If you’re nervous, have a nervous habit, or seem to lack confidence then you have no value period. If, however, you’re confident in yourself, relaxed in your interaction, and not worried about what others are going to think or say and you mix this with an equal level of energy in the group then you will subtlety communicate value
Second, people that have value reward people. As such you must appear as though you are rewarding the people in the group that you’re trying to build group attraction with. This is done very simply by saying something such as “I normally don’t tell people this, but…..” or “I only do this/that for people I really trust/admire/like.” It must be at a socially appropriate time though, else you lose value.
Finally, in group attraction you can do an exchange to get an equal amount of value. Thus, if a hot woman in the group or the alpha male current group leader is telling you/everyone a story, you can share a story of EQUAL or SLIGHTLY LESSER proportion to get value. Don’t ever try to outdo another person in the group though, because if it’s done in the wrong way or too often that will lower value.
Rule Three: Every person in the group must be allowed to give value and receive value and every person in the group must always be giving you a little more value than you’re giving them.
To put it simply, even though you’re not trying to overtly outdo others in the group, you are trying to get each person in the group to keep giving you value by rewarding you, through body language (holding your hand, leaning in to listen to you, playfully wrestling/fighting with you), and by allowing you into their inner worlds. Additionally, the more you can keep everyone involved the higher your perceived value will be.
Of course, there are other ways to start out with high value before going into a group. A basic case in point is if you enter the venue with your own group and you appear as though you’re the leader and the women in your group already are attractive. That helps, but it’s not required.
There’s more to be said about group attraction, but this is a starting point.
